Will we take the accountability or will forever seek for validation?

"Bukak je la tudung tu dik, alang-alang dah nampak leher" - A comment by an anonymous I found on a random video on Tiktok. The owner of the video ended up taking off her hijab.

This issue has been circulating since forever.

I appreciate reminders but not this kind of reminder and I also can't support what's forbid in Islam. 

I get the intention of trying to give these so-called-reminders to fellow muslims. However, I totally disagree with the way of that reminder being delivered. 

But the reaction to the comment does not sit right with me - taking off your hijab over a comment that you can simply ignore. Do not blame someone's comment on the internet over your decision to do the things you want to do. Especially harsh comments from a STRANGER. Why would you pay attention to that? 

Honestly, this situation is both frustrating and sad. I read about the arguments on twitter - 

1. Justifying the action of the rebellious of a Muslimah taking off her hijab as an act of feminism,
2. Discussion on how to deliver a good reminder,  and 
3. The debate on the syarie's law and the perceived of the Quran's teaching.

It's sad because in my perspective, I see the Islamic's teaching are no longer been taken seriously, and even more insane that sometimes there are verses in the Quran where the translation was taken out of context to fit one's narrative and to justify one's action. Scary. 

Understand the Quran and its interpretation is not as simple as reading a book where it's straight-forward. We need a qualified teacher to guide in understanding the meaning of each sentence deeply and accurately.

Choosing to let someone's comment control your life is your responsibility. 

Giving advices is one's responsibility too but do it properly, with respect and care. 

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Kepada saudara saudari muslim sekalian, tegurlah berhemah dan terima lah teguran secara berhemah, jangan perlekehkan. Dunia ni memang tempat ujian, tak jadi kat kita sekarang, mungkin jadi kat kita nanti atau mungkin boleh jadi dekat orang yang kita sayang. Tiada siapa yang sempurna. 

Semoga kita semua dikurniakan kesabaran dan kekuatan. Jagalah lisan, jagalah adab. Let's be a better muslim. May Allah guide us all. 

To all the struggling muslimah(s) out there, I probably don't know you but whatever it is, please please please stay strong!!! We got this!! Love yall. Muah xx

The endless journey of chasing perfection.

Everything is so easy nowadays. 

With the increase of social media's users everyday, it's so easy to get opinions and ideas, to get information and knowledge from other people across the globe which we can easily get influenced as well with these so-called professional opinions, (no certificate or reliable sources by the way). 

We are not meant to access knowledge this easily. I mean, not literally but hear(read) me out. 

When everything becomes so easy, we become lazy. Lazy to think critically, clearly or even seeing a bigger picture of an idea that we become more judgmental, more skeptical because "hey, i know things!!!", "i know this from TikTok, you are not supposed to do that", bla..bla..bla. 

(Macam otak kau tersekat dekat level 1, takleh nak pikir, takleh nak terima different opinions. Macam lah ada 1 je opinion dalam dunia ni.) 

I personally think it's getting worse, (especially on Threads lol) when people start to ask opinions of a very normal situations of their life. (which if you use your finest brain, you can actually think!) 

 "Hi guys, I have a question. Is it normal to have friends who reply 3 months late, i wanna leave this friendship so bad" 

"Guys, why is my husband keep coming home late?"

Gosh.

It's exhausting. Aren't you exhausted? 

If things aren't going well in your relationship or friendship, you freaking COMMUNICATE??? Have you tried that???? Or is being in relationship means exposing everything online to you??? 

On the other hand, I see a pattern lately, social media has sort of putting this perfect standard in relationship/friendship that if you are not one of those standards, you are a RED FLAG!!! Then, we compare ourselves a lot while knowing that comparing is literally a thief of joy. 

It's depressing. 

Social media are teaching people to chase for perfect relationship instead of accepting flaws and working things out. Mind you, we humans are all different beings, we brought up different. Your common sense might not be others' common sense but please for the love of Allah SWT, do not rely on social media!!! Please take things in a grain of salt. If things don't go well, then leave. 

Love yourself, get to know yourself first, dear. It's impossible to achieve perfection in life. Take it slow. It's just dunya anyway <3

sources? sauces? sous?

Been doom scrolling a lot on my social media. I like Instagram lately, I like that I can choose what I want to see through the explore page lol.

However, lately there are many contents regarding psychology 'studies' such as "being in your early 20s", "maturity and immaturity", "emotional unintelligent vs emotional intelligent" and what not. At one point, it became boring and meaningless watching all these different 'studies' been talked about without any real sources or references? Please cite your sources next time or else it's just an opinion.  

I mean, not just in terms of psychological contents, this also includes those type of skincare, diet tips, and healthcare contents but mine is mainly on those psychological parts of internet lol. 

Of course, to take these tips and tricks seriously are all up to us la kan? But it's just not nice sharing information publicly without any sources. Dapat dekat young kids, teenagers who crave for validation and has nobody to teach them pastu dapat pulak these so called 'studies' yang entah betul entah tidak kesahihan nya, tak ke naya? Kids will grow up thinking what they did is correct because the internet tells them it's right and it'll confuse them even more. 

Honestly if we think it deeply (apart from the generally haram and halal), we can't really judge what's right or wrong on people's behavior because everyone never experience the same thing which technically, we will never truly put ourselves in other people's shoes. The perspective of things, the reasons of every actions are literally influenced by our environments, surroundings, backgrounds, and beliefs.

Demographic influences hypothesis. 

I think, as long as we as humans never are in the same circumstances, we will always have different opinions and understandings on things. Therefore, to reach an understanding and decision, we need to be under the same roof. That's why people are easy to connect when they have gone through similar things. 

My point is, if you wanna share your 'study' please lay it with evidence or statistic, refer to real experiment, cite it, put it as your source of info because at least people can look up into those sources and understand your point of view. Or else, it's just your opinion and not a study. 

Nothing's wrong in sharing your opinion, we'll understand and respect your point of view cuz it's based on your observation of living and sometimes it helps people to see things from different perspective. (unless if you are a zionist, none of your opinions matter).

So many self claimed studies about how you should live your life. Let's just shut up.