sources? sauces? sous?

Been doom scrolling a lot on my social media. I like Instagram lately, I like that I can choose what I want to see through the explore page lol.

However, lately there are many contents regarding psychology 'studies' such as "being in your early 20s", "maturity and immaturity", "emotional unintelligent vs emotional intelligent" and what not. At one point, it became boring and meaningless watching all these different 'studies' been talked about without any real sources or references? Please cite your sources next time or else it's just an opinion.  

I mean, not just in terms of psychological contents, this also includes those type of skincare, diet tips, and healthcare contents but mine is mainly on those psychological parts of internet lol. 

Of course, to take these tips and tricks seriously are all up to us la kan? But it's just not nice sharing information publicly without any sources. Dapat dekat young kids, teenagers who crave for validation and has nobody to teach them pastu dapat pulak these so called 'studies' yang entah betul entah tidak kesahihan nya, tak ke naya? Kids will grow up thinking what they did is correct because the internet tells them it's right and it'll confuse them even more. 

Honestly if we think it deeply (apart from the generally haram and halal), we can't really judge what's right or wrong on people's behavior because everyone never experience the same thing which technically, we will never truly put ourselves in other people's shoes. The perspective of things, the reasons of every actions are literally influenced by our environments, surroundings, backgrounds, and beliefs.

Demographic influences hypothesis. 

I think, as long as we as humans never are in the same circumstances, we will always have different opinions and understandings on things. Therefore, to reach an understanding and decision, we need to be under the same roof. That's why people are easy to connect when they have gone through similar things. 

My point is, if you wanna share your 'study' please lay it with evidence or statistic, refer to real experiment, cite it, put it as your source of info because at least people can look up into those sources and understand your point of view. Or else, it's just your opinion and not a study. 

Nothing's wrong in sharing your opinion, we'll understand and respect your point of view cuz it's based on your observation of living and sometimes it helps people to see things from different perspective. (unless if you are a zionist, none of your opinions matter).

So many self claimed studies about how you should live your life. Let's just shut up.  

2 small pages of Ina

Found a small journal I had back in Uni. I journal a lot but not consistent. Hence, so many notebooks laying around in my room or on the shelf or in the drawers hahaha. Sometimes there are just thoughts I wanted to write and I write it randomly on whatever notebook I found nearby. 

I like these 2 small pages where I wrote about my friend, Afrina. Dia mungkin tak tau kewujudan blog aku ni. 

30/3/2023

My favourite memories of my uni life would be where I crashed into Ina's house and saw her in front of her laptop, watching Indonesian paranormal videos with her wet hair because she just got out of the shower. I ended up joining her but didn't find it interesting so we watched mukbang together. I remember it was Tzuyang (In fact, I think that was the first time I know about Tzuyang's existence. Girl can eat a lot!!) 

Or sometimes I went straight to her room (because her house was usually empty) and would find her laying down watching dramas on TikTok. Yes, dramas. The ones that are divided into parts. 

We would talk about random things too, sometimes I just stared at her wall or locker or her window while she's on the App. I think most of my memories with Ina are just spending quality time and I love that. She's very understanding as well. Also, Ina is one of my friends that I really feel comfortable with. 

I think this entry is so pure. Lately, I've been trying to find some positivity values in my life. Finding this made me realize, (despite the not-so-good experiences there) life in Uni with the friends that I made there made it so valuable.  

A note, somewhere in May 2025

One of the things I wish I'm good at is the ability to speak my mind articulately. It frustrates me to the core that I'm unable to deliver my thoughts clearly because I love my mind, I love all the thoughts that I have and I wish I can speak for them. 

All I'm thinking, everything I have in mind are graphically. Hence, it's hard to explain & understand the emotions or feelings I have. 

Is this what you experienced people called quarter-life crisis?

Being in mid 20s is weird. You are young but thinking that you are running out of time. I'm a newbie, right? right??? I just started life as an adult, why am I rushing on everything? Time heals, time will fix, the right time will come. Have faith, have faith, have faith! 

Not just that, you started thinking of your value in life, your contributions to people around you are still not enough, which is....weird? I am not some kind of a minister to think I have to contribute some sort of power move or demand world-peace. I'm just a woman in her mid 20s. Of course, if you do not compare your value and your responsibilities to anyone that seems to have better life than you, then you are good!

I get it, life on social media always seems better because it's on internet and that does not mean you have to feel undervalue or insecure about your life. You have your own life too! You did something nice too today! Be it feeding the cats, spending time with your love ones, watering the plants, washing your car, fueling the car, or finish a job interview?! Listen, it's okay to slow down, take things step by step, we are learning, we are experiencing life and to me, alhamdulillah, we did pretty okay so far! 

And also, always remember any rejection is a redirection! You may not receive good news today, but inshaAllah, better ones will come. Maybe not in a form that you are expecting, maybe the success is not as loud as the ones you compared to but hey, let's stop comparing okay? Like what's the point of comparing? It does not get you happier pun so be proud of yourself - (not to the point you riak pulak) and who knows this path is what best for you. 

I mean, we cannot all experiencing the same life, kan?